Given Ken Clarke's recently expressed 'views' and the furor they have cause, I figured I'd throw my weight in with the rape issue. This is a two section article: the first is about reactions to his statment, and I how I think they could politically improve; the second is a criticism of Ken Clarke's actions.
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Firstly, reactions to the issue.
When I read
Stop Talking About Rape and Start Listening, I admit my first reaction was defensive. This is because I am a 'Straight White English-Speaking Educated Man', i.e., the least oppressed group in the world, and The Big Bad Bogey Man. The only way in which I am not part of the ruling clique is that I have never had any money – but obviously the fact that I have been to university means that this is unlikely to be the case in the long term. My mother used to say at the dinner table, 'Well I may be white, American, straight and grew up in a Middle Class home, but at least I'm not a man!' pumping her fist in the air with vigor. Now obviously she was talking in jest, but it had an effect nonetheless.
As a socialist and a writer trying to forward the cause of equality, there has been an odd, latent guilt in me for being born into this body. Obviously, in most conceivable ways, it is an advantage, but the feeling is there regardless. Despite the fact that I have been careful to act morally throughout my life with regards to sexual boundaries and people who are sensitive about various topics, and have always been the political ally of any oppressed group of people, I have been paranoid that feminists and other groups view me as 'The Enemy'. I guess 'Stop Talking' aroused that paranoia in me.
This makes parts of the article hard to read. For example, this line: "A lot of my previous boyfriends have either made me, or made me feel guilty if I didn’t (which almost amounts to the same thing), have sex with them or give them blowjobs."
Now, have I ever made someone feel guilty in the sense of saying to them, "You're frigid, you should be having sex with me, you're being unfair, fuck you, you're a bad girlfriend" etc etc etc? No, of course not. But have I been damn horny and gotten annoyed that it wasn't mutual with my partner, not out of any feeling of injustice, but out of physical frustration? Yes. Just as the other has done when it has been flipped. Obviously I accepted the temporary rejection, but I got a little miffed. Now, obviously, this makes the other person (or myself, were it flipped), feel guilty.
I am fairly confident this is not what the writer meant. But in my defensive state, part of me felt I was being accused of rape.
Another line was this: "Every time a man catcalls me, comments on my breasts in a perverted way (clue: I often don’t mind when gay men say I have nice breasts, I mind a lot more when it’s straight men), it brings back the countless horrible memories"
Again, have I ever gone up to someone I didn't know and started drooling over their breasts? No. Have I commented that friends of mine have nice breasts? All the bloody time. I'm a fairly flirtatious fellow, I'll admit. Do I do it with the intent of pressurizing them, or communicating sexual intent? No. But I do think they look good, and I'll sometimes say. I'm fairly careful to only say to friends of mine I know won't mind, but still, I'll say it.
Once again, I am fairly confident that this is not the sort of thing that was being protested, but again, due to my inbuilt defensiveness on the issue, I felt like I was being accused of being the sort of person who triggers people into reliving trauma.
Lastly, there is the issue of men who may be potential allies being alienated because of their personal trauma being dismissed. Whether they have been in a war zone, been incarcerated, suffered sexual assault as a child, or been violently assaulted, they will not feel like their discussion of their problems are welcome in pro-equality circles, since they feel they are 'The Enemy'. I've been mugged at gun point, had a bloody rock thrown at my eye, been threatened with a knife, been pulled off my bike and attempted to have it stolen, been punched on the face on the street, had people threaten to kill me in High School, and have had an (extremely minor) sexual assault. As have a number of men. Now, I don't particularly care, and have no massive perceivable trauma relating to any of these events, but if I did, I'd feel like my body was dismissing me from the discussion – that how I was born meant what I felt didn't matter.
*Once again* (last time, promise) I know this is not how such anti-rape articles and political stances are intended, and I'm well aware that it's easier to deal with these things when you are in a more empowered group. I'm sure the author of the above article, and many others, would be more than empathetic to such concerns and would welcome discussion on how to solve them and how such people could find help. But, again, the feeling is there; the defensiveness is there.
Why is this important? Well, it has jack all to do with Ken Clarke – I'll get onto him in a minute. But I feel it is important to state as a preliminary consideration that many other empowered SWEM (Straight, White, Educated, Male) folks will feel the same way, but won't necessarily realize, as I have, that they have misinterpreted the comments. This will alienate them as potential political allies. If they have been careful to pay close attention to issues of consent and social etiquette, they will feel like this is not being recognized, that the responsibility with which they have treated their defacto power in society has gone unnoticed, and that they are being lumped in with the bad bunch. There are few things as alienating as feeling people are lumping you in with rapists and such, when you have never done such a thing.
Often a reply to this is that 'Straight men are statistically more likely to commit sexual assault, therefore it is correct to speak of them differently'. This smacks of the same logic used by racist employers in America: 'Black men are statistically more likely to have committed a crime, ergo this black man I am interviewing is more likely to commit a crime.' This is obviously untrue: an individual cannot be preemptively judged with statistics. Now these example are not equivalent, but they do share a certain reductionism, and are generalizing.
Basically, how to reduce the frequency of rape is a complex issue, involving pursuing equality of power, greater education, imbuing sexual confidence, and a fuller dissemination and a strengthening of existing legal rights. But us SWEM bastards have to be on board for those to be achieved; we do constitute about 40% of the population of the UK. Anger is a good thing; it impels us to action. But we must be careful not to alienate our allies: we all have to be able to identify as being accepted into the cause of equality. Some sectors of feminism are more militant with regards to this than others, of course, but it is a lesson to be learned across the board.
In short: just keep in mind when you are writing that a lot of your audience is straight and male, and that a lot of them are willing to support your cause.
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Right, Ken Clarke time.
For some reason Conservatives never take into account the issue of power. This is presumably because they're all rich and have it, ergo don't have to worry about it. Anyway...
When the Justice Secretary, a public figure, and an executive authority on the Law of the Land implies that certain 'kinds of rape' aren't serious, he helps define the culture of legality surrounding the issue. This then has an effect on how empowered people who rely on the law will feel at any given time.
Power is often a passive thing. When we are in a position of threat, sexually or otherwise, our ability to resist is in part determined by how likely it is we will be defended by society at large, and – yes – how 'seriously' our issue will be taken by the law. Do we have the backing behind us to make that challenge? Will it be worth it, should it lead to further threat? Will we be protected if it does so down the road?
This is also true if we have been attacked in some form and want to pursue legal action: will we be taken seriously? It is worth the stress of a trial, etc? Can we be sure it won't lead to retribution? And so on. This is also an issue of power. If we feel the law is firmly on our side, and that our concerns will be treated 'seriously', it is much easier to take that plunge and make the issue a legal one, should we feel it necessary.
This is why Nazi officials and police in Germany were able to get away so easily with so many extra-legal atrocities, or why many Jews walked without resistance to their fate, things that we would normally never accept: the people knew they had no
passive power; no force backing them up, against the massive amount of passive power backing up party cadres.
Basically, Ken Clarke ignored the issues of real power and perceived power, and chose the worst possible word with which to make his idiotic little stance.
Next, there is the fact that he brought up the 'Bush Man' scenario, or the 'properly raped' in the street stranger scenario. Completely irrelevant; as I saw someone write on facebook the other day, this is 'worse' only because it involves further charges of violence, and constitutes a tiny minority of rape cases anyway.
There are bad and worse cases, obviously, as there are with any kind of crime: if you non-consensually punch someone in the face twelves times, it's worse than punching them in the face once. Both constitute violent assault. So it is with rape, and everything else. Those who work in the field of social care know this: distinguishing between people who have been in long abusive relationships where their partners have repeatedly raped them over time and destroyed their sense of security, and people who have suffered isolated incidents is important, as knowing how to reach out to each group and how to deal with the problems people in different scenarios face in necessary to helping them heal. And I personally wouldn't be against judging sexual assault on a sliding scale: as I said above, something very minor happened to myself, but I wouldn't want that person to go to jail, or even have a criminal record, but it might be nice to see them realize why they were wrong.
However, I would say that a prerequisite of liberalizing sexual assault laws in this way would be more equality across the board, to avoid such liberalization being taken advantage of. Still, being a massive opponent of high incarceration rates, I would like to see them progress hand in hand.
But these are not the terms Ken Clarke couched his argument on; saying that only 'Street Stranger' rape is 'proper' or 'serious' rape excludes most people who have suffered assault from ever having any legal standing or power. And even had they been the terms he used, it still would not have been the best idea in the world, as, like I stated, this man is a representative of the nation's justice system: had he been taking power into account and been doing his job, he would have used
explicitly positive terms in relation to a person's legal rights and the seriousness of their situation, he would have made them feel like it was
absolutely serious, as the main role of justice is
to redress power balances, to treat people equally under the law, and correct prejudices in the law and render it fair and representative.
He doesn't realize that his words made people's lives worse. And for some, probably a lot worse. This is why he should give a full apology, and more: it was not a mis-mash, not a mistake, not a gaffe. He did not do his job, and he damaged lives. He should apologize, and, further more, resign – or if he does not, be fired.